Mashable's latest #BizChats discussed how to mend relationships that are video lucah malaysiaon the rocks with you fellow coworkers.
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Over the course of an hour, our influencers covered an array of questions ranging from how to mend a relationship with a supervisor that you got off on the wrong foot with, to constructive ways to improve your work relationship with an incompetent coworker.
Several experts took part in the conversation including: Dr. Leah Klungness, Ph.D., psychologist and expert on relationship issues; Melanie Greenberg, Ph.D, psychologist, blogger and expert in cognitive-behavioral therapy for adults; Suzy Welch, business journalist, career advice contributor on the TODAY show and best-selling co-author of The Real Life MBA ; and Sylvia Lafair, Ph.D., business leadership expert in optimizing workplace relationships.
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[View the story "#BizChats: How to avoid clashing with your co-workers" on Storify]#BizChats: How to avoid clashing with your co-workers Mashable discussed how to cool your fiery workplace relationships with coworkers that are experts at ruffling your feathers. Storified by Mashable· Wed, Jul 27 2016 19:25:34
If you have a job in corporate America, there's a 100% chance you're working with people. Throughout the entirety of your career, there's also a 100% chance that you're going to come across one or two people who are harder to work with than other.@mashbusines and several influencers participated in a #BizChats Twitter chat to discuss how professionals can improve their work relationships with unruly coworkers. Welcome to #BizChats! Today we’re discussing how to improve the work relationships that are driving you crazy. Please introduce yourselves!Mashable BusinessA warm welcome to our experts: @Dr_Leah, @drmelanieG, @SuzyWelch, & @sylvialafair! #BizChatsMashable Business#BizChats tip #1: Be sure to number your answers according to the question you're answering. (ie., Q1.--> A1., Q2. --> A2., Q3. --> A3.)Mashable Business#BizChats tip #2: Don’t forget to include #BizChats at the end of all your answers to be a part of the conversation!Mashable BusinessOne more minute until Q1.Mashable BusinessQuestion 1:Q1. Why are healthy work relationships so important to establish & maintain in the workplace? #BizChatsMashable BusinessQ1. Healthy relationships mean progress and goals attained. Toxic environments breed only failure. #BizChatsDr. Leah Klungness@mashbusiness A1: Healthy work rel'n = happy people = happy work environment! #BizChatsJennifer BakerA1: They are important because the opposite can bring: poor productivity, misunderstanding, hostility, uncooperative employees... #bizchatsAnnaliese HenwoodA1 Relationship is the basis for productive teams. When they are failing, the climate is not supportive or conducive for work. #BizChatsJoynicole Martinez@mashbusiness #bizchats Healthy relationships are important because they reinforce wellbeing which supports satisfaction and engagementJaniceBarnesA1. Healthier work relationships lead to a rise in employee morale which leads to increased productivity. #BizChatsGeoffrey BlosatA1) Healthy work relationships help to create productivity & motivation! A happy workforce is a healthy one! #bizchatsThinkTankA1 Positive Support increases productivity & morale #BizChatsKristin A. Meekhof@mashbusiness A1.--> But healthy work relationships matter because 2 brains in the game -- or 3 or 4 -- are always better than 1. #bizchatsSuzy Welch@SuzyWelch there is safety in a multitude of wise counsel. I keep saying it - we must practice it! #BizChatsJoynicole Martinez@mashbusiness A1 --> You spend so many hours @ work, if ur not liking your coworkers, life can get very harsh. So there's that for starters.Suzy WelchA1 Our relationships guide our mood & morale, they reinforce our strengths and can highlight weaknesses in negative ways. #BizChatsJoynicole MartinezWell said @JoynicoleM. And there's the universal truth: you met the same people going down as going up. Relationships matter. #BizChatsDr. Leah KlungnessA1 Healthy work relationships contribute to overall company healh, higher productivity, and lower turnover rates. #BizChatsHotSchedulesRCTless stress more productivity/ less dready/ more fun#BizChatsSylvia Lafair, Ph.D@mashbusiness A1. the employer sets the atmosphere for its employees. If the atmosphere is toxic at the top, it'll trickle down. #BizChatsTracey EdouardBusiness with a human connection makes all the difference#BizChatsSylvia Lafair, Ph.DQuestion 2:Q2. What are some common habits of an employee that drives his or her coworkers crazy? #BizChatsMashable Business@mashbusiness A2 The avoiders who run for the hills when conflcit comes #BizChatsSylvia Lafair, Ph.D@mashbusiness A2: Lack of emotional intelligence. Lack of tact. Doesn't listen. #BizChatsJennifer Baker@mashbusiness A2--> Other make-me-crazy behaviors are claiming too much credit, doing too little work, and always saying "no." #bizchatsSuzy Welch@mashbusiness A2 Bring sob stories to work and let the drama take over #BizChatsSylvia Lafair, Ph.D@mashbusiness A2--> The most common no-no has to be the co-worker who kisses up and kicks down (and sideways). Verrry annoying. #bizchatsSuzy WelchA2 non-stop whining, chronic lateness & failure to take responsibility for errors #BizChatsKristin A. Meekhof@mashbusiness A2. Someone who says "I can't" more than "I can." #BizChatsTracey EdouardA2) Being afraid to speak to fellow coworkers about issues can be a big issue! #snitchesgetstitches #bizchatsThinkTank@mashbusiness A2. Lack of motivation, impossible deadlines, mispronunciation of names, forgetting deadlines or lacking a schedule. #BizChatsSamina SultanaA2 Talking too much. Seriously. Don’t overshare 'personal' at work. Respect the workplace and pace so the team remains productive. #BizChatsJoynicole MartinezA2. Definitely destructive to talk down your team -- or behind their back. Well said @SuzyWelch #BizChatsDr. Leah KlungnessUnrealistic goals and deadlines. Too much dependency on others. Not refilling coffee. #BizChats https://t.co/hbtZGcAdoNDiana Kolesarova@mashbusiness A2. A narcissist who doesn't see the value in team work. Someone who cuts corners in everything they do. #BizChatsTracey EdouardA2: Being a know-it-all, refusing to work with others, basic office etiquette, such as noise, having a bad attitude about work... #bizchatsAnnaliese HenwoodA2. Agree @MktgInnovator. I'd add doing your share of workplace housekeeping chores. Small things, but people notice. #BizChatsDr. Leah KlungnessQuestion 3:Q3. What are ways to de-escalate a miscommunication between a difficult coworker? #BizChatsMashable BusinessA3 Listen. Listen again. Repeat the message. Usually this begins de-escalation. People get louder when they feel you can’t hear. #BizChatsJoynicole Martinez@mashbusiness A3 Slow down, cool down, gulp some cold water before you talk #BizChatsSylvia Lafair, Ph.DA3) Often times, we settle our disagreements over sushi at the local sushi bar. This could be universal! #bizchatsThinkTank@mashbusiness A3 Tell the truth: NOT same as spilling your guts! #BizChatsSylvia Lafair, Ph.D@mashbusiness A3--> Take it out of the office - your relationship, that is. Get a cup of coffee. Go for a walk. And talk candidly. #BizChatsSuzy WelchA3. Outside the office with fresh air often helps @Samina__S. Listening rather than talking often resolves miscommunication best. #BizChatsDr. Leah KlungnessA3: Speak to the other person until the miscommunication is clarified. Don't avoid or bicker about it. Communication is key. #bizchatsAnnaliese Henwood@mashbusiness A3. Try and resolve it outside the office, for instance, go out for coffee or take a break to discuss. #BizChatsSamina SultanaA3 Talk directly to that person first. Don't talk behind the back or spread rumors. That never helps a situation. #BizChatsHotSchedulesRCT@mashbusiness A3 This. https://t.co/PaDnOl9Ruy #BizChatsThe Muse@mashbusiness A3--> And even though it will be hard, assume your coworker has good intentions. Stop demonizing them and LISTEN. #BizChatsSuzy Welch@mashbusiness A3. Avoid email and talk in person if possible. Take ownership & admit your own failures. #BizChats https://t.co/WNtQk2JFnsBrett CrispA3. Take ownership of your role in miscommunication. Blame never rests on only one person. #BizChatsDr. Leah KlungnessQuestion 4:Q4. In what situations should an employee be reported to a higher power like HR? #BizChats :)Mashable BusinessA4: 1st - talk to the person; If a resolution is not possible at your level, give the person time, try again, or report. #bizchatsAnnaliese Henwood@mashbusiness A4--> First, always best to go to your direct supervisor b4 you go to HR (unless the problem is your supervisor)! #BizChatsSuzy Welch@mashbusiness A4 Threaat of violence, even if making jokes run dont walk to HR #BizChatsSylvia Lafair, Ph.D@mashbusiness A4. When a resolution cannot be met for lack of cooperation, when a person crosses the line and continues to do so. #BizChatsSamina SultanaA4: If the error by the other person could bring damage to the company or lead to worse situations, it's time to report them. #bizchatsAnnaliese Henwood@mashbusiness A4--> But def go to HR right away if you feel unsafe, or as if you feel as if a fellow employee might be unsafe. #BizChatsSuzy WelchQ4. Tough question. Before you act, discuss the situation with a trusted colleague -- preferably one without any skin in the game. #BizChatsDr. Leah KlungnessA4 Try talking to someone first. If that doesn't work, you can escalate to HR for mediation. Be sure to document. #BizChatsHotSchedulesRCTA4 When the issue is obstructing work, may damage the brand, or is feeling threatening then it’s time to call for help. #BizChatsJoynicole MartinezQ4. Higher power may mean the police. Don't hesitate if you witness violence. Or feel physically threatened. #BizChatsDr. Leah Klungness@JoynicoleM @mashbusiness A4 --> But would you agree that it's best to go to your boss first? Curious! Thx. #bizChatsSuzy Welch@mashbusiness Harassment. Stealing opportunities. Misusing facilities and freedom at work. #BizChatsKuppulakshmi@mashbusiness A4. Use my Rule of #3: slurs, insults state your disapproval after 3 times go to boss or HR #BizChatsSylvia Lafair, Ph.DA4 Bullying, Intimidation, Threats, Harassment should be reported to HR #BizChatsKristin A. Meekhof@mashbusiness A4. Illegal/immoral actions. Try to resolve most other situations first without "reporting". #BizChats https://t.co/06A4M9mHD0Brett CrispQuestion 5:Q5. How can you mend a relationship with a supervisor that you got off on the wrong foot with? #BizChatsMashable Business@mashbusiness A5. Apologize. Create a plan to get back on track and treat it as a learning opportunity for both of you. #BizChatsSamina SultanaA5 Let the supervisor know where YOU erred in your relationship. Take responsibility for your actions. This can do wonders! #BizChatsHotSchedulesRCTAlign your skills with their goals. Help them out. Get advice from them & ask about their views. #BizChats https://t.co/Xy8prdKRjJDiana Kolesarova@mashbusiness A5: a sincere chat over a coffee.And, wait for time to help heal. Being real helps. #BizChatsKuppulakshmi@mashbusiness A5: Communication is key. Be honest. #BizChatsJennifer BakerThought to keep in mind @AlchemistAgency + @sylvialafair. Make sure you can document each 'strike' before reporting. #BizChatsDr. Leah KlungnessA5: Communicate with them. Be honest with how you started off. Do your job the way you were hired to do it and show initiative. #bizchatsAnnaliese Henwood@mashbusiness A5. Doors once locked can open when truth surfaces, at least 92%of the time #BizChatsSylvia Lafair, Ph.D@mashbusiness A5. Be proactive, ask for feedback. Its the gift that keeps on giving Promise! #BizChatsSylvia Lafair, Ph.D@mashbusiness A5 --> This is so hard! I'd say go for broke, be blunt, and ask for a "reset," 100% owning what went wrong. #BizChatsSuzy WelchA5. Concentrate on the 'why' you got off on the wrong foot. Are you a poor fit for this organization? Or is this just a blip? #BizChatsDr. Leah Klungness@mashbusiness Listen dont talk Listen and then ask questions NO Defend, Explain or Justify #BizChatsSylvia Lafair, Ph.D@mashbusiness A5--> Another alternative is a mediated conversation- a great use of HR. A 3rd person can sometimes build a bridge. #BizChatsSuzy Welch@mashbusiness A5. Find the hidden patterns of behavior that keep repeating. They are just right under the radar so keep looking #BizChatsSylvia Lafair, Ph.D@mashbusiness A5 These tips can improve your relationship with your boss, whether it be good or bad. https://t.co/KwFDJDsqD1 #BizChatsThe MuseQuestion 6:Q6. What are constructive ways to improve your work relationship with an incompetent coworker? #BizChatsMashable Business@mashbusiness A6 How incompetent is the real question. They may need to be "liberated" from a job not meant for them #BizChatsSylvia Lafair, Ph.DA6: I probably sound like a broken record, but calm, productive and consistent communications with your coworker are a must. #bizchatsAnnaliese Henwood@mashbusiness A5. Produce quality work and show that you care. #BizChats https://t.co/z6W7jyxEEXBrett Crisp@mashbusiness A6. When giving feedback, it's important to be mature about it. We're all adults here. https://t.co/PiyaSdT1IW #BizChatsThe Muse@mashbusiness A6: share ur own mistakes from the past & how you overcame such situations. They can always learn from ur mistakes #BizChatsKuppulakshmi@mashbusiness A6. First look at what U are contributing to issues. If you can admit a weakness maybe better discussion can follow #BizChatsSylvia Lafair, Ph.DA6 Help them build the skills necessary for their success (which ultimately impacts your work, too.) #BizChatsHotSchedulesRCTDefinitely. Communicate + move forward @beboldsocial. Sincere + brief apology, if warranted, will mend fences + clean the slate. #BizChatsDr. Leah Klungness@mashbusiness A6. Realize that Pobody's Nerfect (get it?) Don't hold grudges. Formulate a plan for a better relationship. #BizChatsTracey Edouard@mashbusiness A6--> Awful truth is, either teach them how to be competent, or just keep your distance. All else too frustrating. #BizChatsSuzy Welch@mashbusiness A6. Outline daily tasks and create open communication to ask questions and ensure they understand the tasks. #BizChatsSamina Sultana@mashbusiness A6. Set boundaries. Help when possible. Point them to resources. Celebrate successes. #BizChats https://t.co/d5WeV4s8lcBrett Crisp@mashbusiness A6: Communication. Training. Honest. Direction. #BizChatsJennifer BakerA6. Make sure tasks are clearly delineated so boss understands respective responsibilities. Protect your performance reputation. #BizChatsDr. Leah Klungness@mashbusiness A6 Another important thing to take note of is how YOU approach the situation. https://t.co/dIKwlcmSNz #BizChatsThe Muse@mashbusiness A6. sign of need of effective communication. Sit and teach to improve their way of thinking before anything harsh. #BizChatsmotebang senaoanaA6. Only with great caution should you take on responsibility for teaching or mentoring an incompetent - *big* time - colleague. #BizChatsDr. Leah KlungnessQuestion 7:Q7. What are some mistakes professionals make when looking to rectify a situation with an unruly employee? #BizChatsMashable Business@mashbusiness A7. Making emotionally-based decisions. We're not robots, but we have to try to stay as impartial as possible in biz #BizChatsTracey Edouard@mashbusiness A7--> Biggest mistake is not dealing w/ the problem directly, with the employee. Awkward, but you have to go there. #BizChatsSuzy Welch@mashbusiness A7. Don't play the blame game. Don't retaliate. Don't force a resolution or try to do it quickly. #BizChatsSamina Sultana@mashbusiness A7: Jump to conclusions. Don't fully understand the individual or situation. #BizChatsJennifer Baker@mashbusiness A7. Not creating psychological safety for people to say what they really want to say #BizChatsSylvia Lafair, Ph.D@mashbusiness A7. Not looking at underlying issues in the whole system that stay hidden and nothing gets completed successfully #BizChatsSylvia Lafair, Ph.DA7. Depends on definition of 'unruly' . . . most common mistake is talking not listening. And public reprimands. Devastating. #BizChatsDr. Leah Klungness@mashbusiness A7 Missing out on all of these by handling the situation in a way that isn't so great. https://t.co/ZXKDCJdJ1L #BizChatsThe MuseQuestion 8:Q8. What are some final tips for improving work relationships that are driving you crazy #BizChatsMashable Business@mashbusiness A8 Remember there's always something to learn. It makes it easier to work on relationships https://t.co/jPzF0ewLUC #BizChatsThe Muse@mashbusiness A8. BE COURAGEOUS enough to start the real conversations. U wont regret it #BizChatsSylvia Lafair, Ph.DBe calm. Be talkative. Lose the awkwardness. Be kind and helpful. Remind yourself of the common goal. #BizChats https://t.co/MZFXse2ALeDiana KolesarovaA8: Breathe & force yourself to drop anything that's petty. You see these ppl more than you see your family. Make it work. #BizChatsProteus Technologies@mashbusiness A8--> Do something really hard. Ask a trusted co-worker or boss if YOU happen to be the problem. Just saying. #BizChatsSuzy WelchA8 Begin with the end in mind. Envision how you want the relationship to look then work at building it. When working, we learn. #BizChatsJoynicole Martinez@mashbusiness A8. Do resolve them and don't be afraid to speak out about it. If you don't take action, nothing will change. #BizChatsSamina Sultana@mashbusiness A8: NOTHING IS PERSONAL while at work. Only the quality you put in your work is. #BizChatKuppulakshmi@mashbusiness A8: It may be difficult, but be upfront and honest. #BizChatsJennifer Baker@mashbusiness A8. Share your light with everyone you meet #BizChatsSylvia Lafair, Ph.D@mashbusiness A8. Always start fresh each new day. Don't drag yesterday's problems into tomorrow's future. #BizChatsTracey Edouard@mashbusiness A8. Be part of the movement of fearlessness #patternpioneers to help business be a great place to learn #BizChatsSylvia Lafair, Ph.DQ8. Best tip to improve *crazy* work relationships . . . Golden Rule. Treat others as you would like to be treated. #BizChatsDr. Leah KlungnessClosing Comments:Thank you for joining today’s #BizChats!Mashable BusinessSpecial thanks to our experts: @Dr_Leah, @drmelanieG, @SuzyWelch, & @sylvialafair! #BizChatsMashable BusinessLoved being a part of it. Thanks to everyone! Great comments! https://t.co/d9C1Q41S9dSuzy WelchThank you @mashbusiness. Appreciate the opportunity. Splendid company. #BizChatsDr. Leah KlungnessHuge thanks to @mashbusiness for an awesome hour of #BizChats. Learning from others is the real key to development. Can't wait to join againDiana KolesarovaThank you @mashbusiness for a fantastic #BizChats today!HotSchedulesRCT@mashbusiness Always glad to be here 😊 #BizChatsThe Muse@mashbusiness Thank you, from India! #BizChats https://t.co/pEhvei1JttKuppulakshmi@mashbusiness I hate it must end! The experts are truly giving away gold today. #BizChatsJoynicole MartinezCompletely enjoyed #BizChats and learning more about #TalentManagement thanks to you all for your wisdom! https://t.co/ZT9U2j6XwkJoynicole Martinez@mashbusiness always a pleasure. I feel stronger after #BizChats - totally empowered!Joynicole MartinezMashable Have something to add to this story? Share it in the comments.
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